About Me

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Jill Methvin

Thank you for coming to my site the Adoption Trail.  Adoption is my community and I’m very proud of it; we make up about 2% of the population which brings about a lot of mystery to others.  Since there are so many layers of adoption in our family, I feel that we are extremely unique, so I wanted to share with others who are looking into adoption for maybe the first time.

My Mission Statement

Transparency and honesty in records and dialogue.

To Adoptive Parents

I am an adoptee, but I’m also one of you. Many of you have been sold a bill of goods, by your religious community, your church, and your agency. Adoption is not what most of you bought into.  Most of you bought into loving and caring for an orphan just to learn your child is not an orphan. Your child already has a family complete with two parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. They all want to be part of your child’s life. How to make room for all of them has already become a crisis for some of you.  If God gifted you with children of your own, you know you would not want your children permanently disconnected from your life for any reason.  God does not give you the perfect gift just to give it to someone else. Cutting people out of your child’s life may seem ideal for you, but your children have already learned that family is not forever, that’s why they have you. God gives forever families, not judges.  The woman who gave birth to your child will always be their mother.  You can give your child whatever politically correct vocabulary you want but their mother is always their mother.

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”  Isaiah 49:15 NIV

To Adoptees

We’ve been exploited is in so many different ways it’s hard to count.  Some of you have been stolen and sold, some given away, and some forcibly removed from families when in never had to happen.  You were simply taken from your family to fulfill the needs of others.  It’s not right and the industry doing it has few regulations, transportation is more important.  We are a political pawn to sway votes, and we are also told we will fulfill the emptiness of the infertile.  We are born with huge jobs on our backs, and in many cases, huge price tags.  We are the reason some drive a Lexus and others sponsor fund raisers.  Faces of orphans are exploited on religious signs to win sympathy, gain contributions, and more votes.  If you are from a good adoption or a bad adoption you’ve witnessed the abuse; you even have a special vocabulary.  Define the word “real.”  It’s time for change.

“One who oppresses the poor to increase his wealth and one who gives gifts to the rich–both come to poverty.”  Proverbs 22:16 NIV

 My Background

Adoption is how I became a member of my family, but it’s not who I am.  I am a wife, mother, grandmother, and daughter.  I earned my Master’s Degree in Career and Technical Education: Educational Technology and my Bachelors in Business Administration from Ferris State University.  Most recently I retired after spending almost two decades teaching in public education; prior to that I worked over a decade in the computer industry, and I even did a stint in advertising.

Hobbies

Hobbies often say more about a person than their words.  I love to spend time with family, friends, research, read books, crochet, and travel. Hugs!

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